O yea I bought a synology before all of that crap. I still have wd drives in there. I don’t plan on any updates to ensure I don’t have to deal with that

Not sure what what you mean. Plex has a bubble you can get stuck in. Jellyfin is free and open source

Synology worked for me. They have built in reverse proxy. As well as good documentation to install it on their machine. Just gotta configure your wifi router to port forward your device and bam you’re ready to rock and roll